Many people get stuck on many stages of blogging. So today I’m sharing with you five common fears of blogging you might have experienced or are experiencing.
The most common fears of blogging I see are:
- Fear of starting (action)
- Fear of making mistakes
- Fear of being visible
- Fear that the journey is not worth it
- Fear of standing out and being different
So let’s dig in.
#1 Fear of starting
It’s so easy to be caught in the dream up stage and watching how other people come out with a new video, post, challenge or course every week. But you’re still stuck in the dream up stage where you’re not sure how to approach this.
- What if I get judged?
- What if I make a mistake?
- What if this?
- What if that?
And before you know it, you don’t realize that your thoughts already spun out of control. And it’s your thoughts that created this reality.
Some people are more naturally action-averse and that might have to do with the fact that they always had an authority who made decisions for them. So they are more reliant and dependent. Or they worked in strict as opposed to creative environments: banking vs tech start-ups.
#2 Fear of making mistakes
So now that you started, you’ve realized there are so many things that you don’t know yet. You just created a blog. Then comes the questions:
- How do I write blog posts that convert?
- How do I make my writing more engaging?
- How do I create a community on my blog so that people don’t feel like they’re commenting into a black hole?
And when you have so many questions on your brain, feeling overwhelmed is an understatement. So feeling overwhelmed, you do nothing.
- What if you write a blog post that doesn’t convert any readers to subscribers? (Ha, I’ve done that before)
- What if I write a blog post that people find boring?
- What if readers don’t leave any comments? (Most posts you write in the beginning won’t have any comments, including my own.)
Trust me, it’s much easier to make those mistakes in your early stages of blogging when much fewer people are reading your blog than when you have a larger audience. First, people are more forgiving in your early stages because they don’t expect a lot. Second, either way, you’ll have to learn it and if you don’t learn it through trial and error, you might have to hire a professional to do it for you.
So which would you rather? (There’s no right or wrong answer, it just depends on what resources you have: time to fail and learn from it or money to spend?)
Mistakes are hardly mistakes if you can and are willing to own up and learn from them. Plus, it’s much better to fail forward than to wake up a month later only to realize you’re in the same position. Some people get so stuck in their current reality that they can’t think far enough to what can possibly happen if Plan A doesn’t quite work out.
Well, you know what doesn’t work now, but there are still 25 more letters in the alphabet. The helpful thing about making mistakes and learning through trial and error is that the “failure” will be more ingrained in you. This is because when we learn from failure or learn from “aha” moments, we are experiencing something in real time. When you learn by only reading from others, it’s not as ingrained in you because it wasn’t yours, to begin with.
So don’t be afraid to make mistakes because people will judge you for it. Make them so you can move forward.
#3 Fear of being visible
This is actually a huge one I actually had to go through when I started this blog. I don’t struggle with the other ones on this list, but I do struggle with this one at every stage. Not sure if this has to do with the fact that I’m an introvert or that I don’t like taking the center stage. I much prefer one-to-one deep conversations than “building an audience.”
So if you’re at this stage, you’re probably experiencing these:
- Using your name on your blog
- Adding a headshot of yourself to your blog without wearing sunglasses or hiding your face behind your hair
- Showing up on video
- Sharing your personal stories
- Creating so many pins that your posts are going to be found (Like… OMG they are reading this!)
- Going viral
Fear of visibility (for me) comes from knowing that I need to “build a connection with my people”, but wanting to reserve myself behind the bars. So there’s this “knowing” how I need to be more visible, but subconsciously I’m also resisting it for personal reasons.
Here are a few ways I’ve approached to counter this:
- Take baby steps and become “more visible” each day. Don’t think of visibility as a one-and-done type thing. Progress is better than being “completely visible” (which is no such thing)
- Be more afraid of stagnation and lack of growth than of visibility. Once I knew that if I wasn’t putting myself in front of new people, I’ll always be where I am — then I’ll start getting scared. So ask yourself, what are you more afraid of besides visibility?
Solution: Use a greater fear of yours to counteract this fear.
#4 Fear that the journey is not worth it
I added this one to the list because someone mentioned this on a Facebook group. So it sounds like a common fear that people have. Now how you determine worth is very subjective and it depends on why you’re blogging:
- To make friends
- To make money
- To build community
- To get more clients
- To land better job offers and impress hiring managers
- To make a side income
- To practice your writing, videomaking, or public speaking skills
- To learn your topic by trying to teach it
- To show your expertise and build thought leadership
Now I always think you should have both a selfish and empathetic reason to blog before you do it. If you only have selfish reasons, no one wants to connect with someone like that. But if you only have empathetic reasons and no one is reading your blog yet, then it’s easy for you to run out of motivation or purpose to create. I don’t believe in doing something only for others or only for yourself. You want to start something that you love to do, but that also benefits others. That’s a win-win outcome.
#5 Fear of being different and standing out
What if people don’t like it?
Ah, what if they do? Then you would’ve lost your chance to be yourself and show them your true self?
Most of the time, you start imitating others for a few reasons:
- You’re not aware of doing it
- It’s much safer to copy someone when their way is proven to work
- You believe there’s only one way to do this
- You like proven systems, formulas, and anything that’s “done for you”
- You don’t have to worry about “failing”
These are all practical reasons to do something. I’m all about imitating someone I admire until I find my own style around something. I do it when I’m learning a new language. But what does it mean when you only copy someone and never do anything different?
That’s not called creativity. It’s called copycat.
So the next time you do something, ask yourself:
- Does this align with what I really want?
- Is this something that’s going to connect with my audience? (You can always test it out)
Do you find yourself experiencing some of these fears?